Self Love:

Part 2 of the “Insecure? Let’s talk about it” series.

In my last blog I mentioned SELF-LOVE, but what does that actually consist of? What does it look like? How do I start? are probably questions you may have had or have. There is no one answer that fits all of those questions. The truth is, it will consist of something different and look different to each individual. Also, you start when you are ready to start.

SELF-LOVE is being connected to yourself; it’s unique, it’s intentional, it’s rewarding, it’s refreshing, it’s unapologetic in nature, has no boundaries, and it’s freedom, much like Self Care, right?! I have listed below ways to identify your WHAT, WHY, and HOW to make your SELF-LOVE journey, a fulfilled one.

1. WHAT? Define what loving yourself means first and foremost. Discover and identify what SELF-LOVE looks like for yourself, what do you hope to gain? What are areas in your life, where you need to accept and fall in love with all over again or for the first time! For example, my definition of SELF-LOVE is being okay with every part of what makes me, Me and viewing myself the way God views me. Your definition will be different from mine, but that’s okay!

2. WHY? Your “why” will be your motivation to start and continue on your SELF-LOVE journey so make sure its worth your time, energy, and efforts. Your “why” will not be the same as the next person’s, but again that’s a good thing!

3. HOW? Write a list of all the things you love about yourself right now and then make a list of things that you desire to love about yourself, if you can write a list of things that you love about yourself now, then you have the ability to love other parts of you, no matter what it is, and know it is not just limited to physical attributes. In a previous blog, I mentioned “positive affirmation,” (which is a statement that helps to challenge and overcome self-sabotaging and negative thoughts) as a good way to combat low self-esteem, but it can be a powerful and empowering thing when you use it. Positively affirming yourself, can propel you to have a healthy sense of yourself in the long run. When you positively affirm yourself, you must make sure it is positive ONLY, so no room for self hate or to pick at the things you don’t like about yourself. Again, SELF-LOVE is intentional, by saying “I Am…” you can have freedom to choose whatever realistic word would fit. (ex. I Am worthy, I Am capable of getting through today, etc..) Furthermore, you can devote each week to an aspect of your life (refer to your list you developed with what you desire to love about you); like really dedicate the week to an aspect or part of your life which needs more of your good ol’ lovin’ and attention. Don’t be afraid to remove yourself from negative energy; if you are constantly around negative people and negative energy your self love journey won’t be easy; be intentional about surrounding yourself with others that are encouraging and positive, you need a healthy balance! Do the things that make you happy, forgive yourself from past mistakes, acknowledge your small victories, challenge your negative thoughts should they come (where is the evidence that this thought is true and valid?) and show others love and respect (very rewarding), embrace yourself :-) I’d also like to add that journaling your SELF-LOVE journey is a greaaaaat idea, something to look back on some time later too

HMMMM…I wonder what i’m having for lunch??

HMMMM…I wonder what i’m having for lunch??

Why SELFcare Tees???

First, let me say that if you have purchased a SELFcare Tee already, thank you from the bottom of my heart! I have been asked a handful of times, how did I come up with this T shirt design? What made me want to start selling T shirts? What was the inspiration behind the message?

Hopefully, this blog can answer those questions for you wondering, but also encourage me to further my pursuit of reaching as many people as possible. So like I've stated before, selfcare for me wasn't something that was trendy or the hip, cool thing to do. It was embedded in my current lifestyle for a very good reason. As many of you know, I am a Mental Heath Counselor and I have experienced burn out on a small scale, but it's still all the same and negatively affected me to which I had to change my routine around some to make sure I was still able to stay in this line of work. In a previous blog, I explain what SELFcare is, check it out!

I remember sitting on my couch at my house, pregnant and all thinking of something to post on my business IG page and it just hit me and stuck with me "I'm not selfish, it's called selfcare" I think there has been a misconception that if you make yourself  a priority, that you are being selfish, and I don't subscribe to that, especially not in this season of my life. As a mom, Mental Health Counselor, Wife, Volunteer, Entrepreneur it's important I don't over exert myself in all of those roles that I play. My husband thought it would be a good idea to make that quote a T shirt design and sell it. At first I was a little hesitant, because I didn't know if people would buy into it or even buy the T shirt! Boy was I wrong, lol but trust me that's a GREAAAAT thing! I wanted to give back to the community in some way and not just sell the shirts to make a profit. I decided that I wanted to donate 10% of the proceeds from shirt sales to an individual that may have a hard time paying for therapy, their medication, or some other related mental health treatment. I am pretty big on "donation" as I also run a private practice that offers donation based counseling, so it made sense to me to continue on with that in mind. 

I quickly realized that the message of the T shirts resonates with so many people all over the country and even other countries! I love that it inspires others to be more intentional about caring for themselves; being kind to his/her self. My whole intention was to sell a T shirt that others will actually want to wear; thats meaningful all while giving back. Its funny how the path of your life can change just by making one decision, I do not believe this was by chance, this was all a part of God's Plan :-) In the same way I did not see myself owning my own private practice, I didn't see SelfcareBelle being a brand and selling T shirts that resonates with so many people all over the world. Thank you for your support, it means the world to me.

I'm not done yet, I'm just getting started! New design in the making??!

Be encouraged and Spread Love.


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check out this cheesy smile lol

12 practices that promotes Inner Peace and Happiness


  1. Apologize as necessary--Life is too short.

  2. Forgive others-- Being gracious is a gift from God.

  3. Participate in pleasurable activities -- Doing something you enjoy doing always sounds nice, right?

  4. Exercise -- Those "happy" hormones start kicking in!

  5. Smile--You look great and feel great doing it :-)

  6. Laughter--Its medicine for the SOUL.

  7. Socialize with Friends and Loved ones--Go where you are loved and welcomed and not Tolerated.

  8. BE Authentic--Be true to who you are and what you feel, the ones who don't matter Mind,  and the ones who matter Don't Mind.

  9. Self-awareness is Golden--Check In with yourself as necessary, be in tune with yourself In all aspects.

  10. Practice Patience-- Be not only patient with yourself but with others (I'm still working on this one)

  11.  Understanding--The power of Understanding is Awesome!

  12. Positive SELFtalk-- Positive talk promotes positive vibes.

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